The term carer is very often associated with people looking after the elderly or disabled. Having this role normally includes remuneration and uniform to identify your position
Caring for a partner, family member or friend doesn’t provide these benefits and in the initial stages can be extremely demanding and emotionally draining. You may already be a carer without even realising as the symptoms have not been recognised or confirmed. The signs you may notice or could look out for as someone close to a sufferer are as follows:
- Short temper, lack of patience or easily aggravated.
- Lack of interest or motivation in things or events previously enjoyed.
- Avoiding going out to events when they were previously enjoyed (exluding with the In-Laws).
- Low energy.
- Quietness, withdrawn or distant.
- Broken or over sleeping.
- Increased levels of alcohol consumption.
- Lack of shaving or care of appearance.
There is a high possibility that you are reading this information as you are either worried about someone who you think may be suffering from depression or you are already caring for someone and want further advice to offer support. The points below are for guidance and simple options which will vary depending on the individual and situation.
- GP Visit – if they haven’t already, try to guide, not push them to the GP. Perhaps suggest booking the appointment or accompanying them.
- This website – you could suggest this website for them to read to gain an understanding – providing you like our work so far.
- Anti-Depressants – if they are prescribed Anti- depressants try to make sure they do take them regularly as prescribed. Monitor the usage to make sure repeat prescriptions are in place
- Hugs – hugs are good and like a well delivered joke – the timing is important.
- Space – be prepared to allow them space when they require it. Time alone is important when required and helps people to evaluate the situation and focus the mind
- Exercise – encourage but don’t enforce exercise. There maybe times when mentally and physically they don’t feel upto it and in that case, not going at all could be for the best. However, that run or jog for example when you don’t really feel like it can feel so much better when you have done. Perhaps there are some exercise you could do together
- Cabin Fever – suggesting with some ‘light pressure’ to go out for fresh air or a walk is good. If the resistance is too much then don’t push too much.
- Alone – reassure them they are not alone. Let them know you will get through this, together, because you will. The response maybe negative initially but further through the journey it will change.
- Comments to avoid: ‘Chin up’, ‘Cheer up’, ‘Man up’ or ‘Snap out of it’.